I often suggest that one way to create habit change is to decide you are a certain type of person.

For example, deciding that you are a person who exercises, is often a way to make this habit stick. You may start making other healthier choices too.

But we might also subconsciously be acting in a certain way because in our mind we want to be “a person who…” – when, if we step back, we might realize we don’t want to be that way.

This is the trap of comparing ourselves to others.

“I want to be just like him/her” can get us to do silly things. But do we really want to be the type who does those things? Or might we admire him/her, but not want to ‘be’ like them quite so much. What’s our motivation when others’ are concerned?