When I was in high school, I remember being very fearful of ‘missing out’ on the weekends. I don’t think it was so much that I wanted to be doing something different, I think my feelings were rooted in a feeling that I should want to be doing X, and it was tied to what I thought others wanted me to be doing. In other words, I thought people cared what I did on my weekends and I wanted them to like me. I went to a boarding school, so I was in a constant bubble where people actually did know what I was doing.

As an adult those feelings have largely vanished, but I also keep a private life – so no one really knows what I’m doing with my time. I’m not so sure this is good. I think our goal maybe should be to be secure in doing what we want to do, but while maintaining a community environment.

How do you relate to wanting to keep up with others? Is it a good place to be?