At Hoffman we talked about compassion, and defined it as "the wish for another being to be free from suffering." Our teachers taught that this is different than seeing another's pain and believing that we are obligated to fix it. We cannot fix everyone's pain, and if we feel that we must, then we may [...]
My calendar default is to set meetings to one hour (yours probably is too). But what if our default for meeting was 30 minutes? Or 20 minutes? Would we be more efficient with our time? And is that better? Would something be lost or gained?
My mother recently moved to assisted living, leaving behind a household FULL of stuff. The house was lived in for 25 years, but not maintained and I find it horribly disgusting. I would like to walk away and never set foot there again, and yet, I recognize that there are some antique items that someone [...]
What’s YOUR dream for this year?
I am in a FB group of business owners similar to myself, and people are sharing their goals for the new year. What I LOVE the most is how DIFFERENT each person's goals are! One person's primary goal is to build a successful business but working just 6 hours a day, from home, so she [...]
Expressing needs and wants.
If I am direct with my needs or wants, what if you turn away because that doesn't work for you? I am recognizing, seen through the lens of my business life, that this is a major fear that I have. Yet, this attitude leaves me in never never land with others possibly unsure what to [...]
What good is a script?
Ramit Sethi provides scripts to get a leg up in your financial life. Alisa Cohn provides scripts for difficult work conversations. A coach just provided me with a script for a difficult conversation I should have. It might feel weird to copy someone else in your own communication. However, it can also be a great [...]
I heard a good reminder recently as many of us will be spending time with family over the holidays: remember that your time is precious, it is a gift, and set appropriate boundaries around your time even with those you love. The thing is, what are the right boundaries for you? It is different for [...]
I took my elderly aunt to the bank to help her figure some things out. It was Thursday during a nine day trip out of state to help her and my mother with care etc. The wonderful bank manager, who was patient, kind, delightful, and so helpful - has a mother about the same age [...]
Time to follow.
Sometimes the best way we can help is to surrender and to help another in the way they need rather than taking control and doing it the way we think it should be done. I am helping both elderly and disabled family members. Been going about the tasks they must be done, I've been sitting [...]
Has anyone ever told you that you did something undesirable, but you absolutely deny it and do not think that you did? Many of us have automatic patterns that we are completely unaware of. Every once in awhile we might catch ourselves. After all, if there's no one else around who could have done it [...]