When we see someone successful on the outside, we don't see all the people that help them get there. They probably regularly meet with a coach or therapist or many other types of people that help them get out of their own way and achieve the success that we see. Finding our supporters is a [...]
We often assume other people know something. Perhaps we think based on their position or place in life, they will have knowledge of x y or z. It might feel like not making the assumption that they have that knowledge is insulting to them. However, if we assume incorrectly it might be even worse. What [...]
You can be at work in progress and yet still get out there and share with the world! We are all works in progress but that doesn't mean we can't help one another figure out how to live our own best lives!
Being vague about what we want typically does not help anyone. It doesn't help an employee you want to do something, it doesn't help yourself and expectations you set for yourself, and it doesn't help your spouse if you're asking for a favor. But getting clear can be hard. Can't you just read my mind? [...]
One of the greatest assets humans can have or develop is to foster a sense of curiosity and figuring things out. Not knowing doesn't make us stupid. But being willing to learn makes us wise. I recently spent time with someone who would get so frustrated not understanding or knowing something. "Where was I in [...]
I recently used this line on a service provider I am switching from. Such an odd line, and yet, I cannot articulate why I am switching providers. I simply don't think we are a good fit, so this phrase captures my feelings better than anything else that comes to mind. It feels bad to say [...]
How should I feel? How should I react? What is my obligation or commitment to this job/family/organization? And if you don't know, where do you turn for answers? As social beings, it's easy to look to others for the answers. But what if you looked inside? What would you find and what answers are you [...]
We can seek guidance to speed up our learning curve, but some lessons, it seems, humans must learn for themselves. Every new person in a profession cannot simply be handed the knowledge passed on from the last person that learned it, instead we must slowly but surely obtain information and experiences. Through that learning we [...]
I recently bonded with an accountant over the aggravating downside of risk in our professions. He shared that accountants often do not provide tax strategy advice because they fear being held accountable if a strategy doesn't work. And attorneys often are hesitant to do something for a client because of the risk associated. Maybe we [...]
Sometimes I look at people who move with confidence and create a presence in a room and draw others as of it's bad. How can you feel so good about yourself in this world? But what if I held myself that way? What if you held yourself that way? What of we own it and [...]
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