I often hear people say that they can’t do or it won’t be good at something because they have never done it before.

There are lots of things in life that you only do once or a handful of times. Few people will become an expert at buying their own home, helping a family member find an assisted living home, or choosing the school to send your children.

If you go into one of these life events already deciding that you are no good, what is the point of the negative self-talk?

And what is the evidence?

Sure, you don’t already have experience. But is there something that you have learned in the past and been able to navigate through a new situation? What skills do you have that will help you with your decision? And what resources, including people, can you turn to?

We will not get very far if we have to be the expert and all we do. But if we can learn to be the foreman of our life, we might find that we can do anything that life presents for us.