I think sometimes in our desire to want to help others, we do things that we think are helpful and yet they’re not.
I had a boss who used to randomly give people free leave. this sounds great, except you never know whether you would have to take unpaid leave or get paid. Plus it was in no way equitable which does not create a good work culture.
Maybe it is best to let people know we are here for them to set clear boundaries and not always help if we don’t know that it will actually help the other.