One helpful way to change your habits is to associate with the identity. I am a person who gets up early. I am a person who eats vegetables throughout the day. I am a person who lives in active life. I am a person who takes pride in my work. Whatever it is... If you [...]
Me most of the time: You have so much to do and it is horrible you are not doing more. This is evidence that you are horrible and not on top of things. Me when I open up space and have some time: Oh, look how much I can get done when there is time [...]
Sometimes it simply is not the right time to tackle something. Best to have grace with yourself-you can't do all the things all at once. But sometimes we need a nudge to get started or move forward with something that we are being indecisive about. Perhaps you can help another at times. In a way [...]
You know those stories that stick with you? Well, I am loving this one! To hear it told better, and from the source (who it happened to), listen to this podcast with Sheila Heen of the Harvard Negotiation Project. Sheila was teaching her son about colors and about traffic. As they sat at an intersection, [...]
If you teach someone how to have the appropriate athletic stance for a right-handed person... It doesn't work so well if they are left-handed. That's a nice visual and obvious, but the same was true for me trying to follow a standard path of getting a good job. It didn't fit. And the same is [...]
What is your reaction when people disagree with you? And are you happy, or ready to tweak it? There's someone who I think is amazing and really look up to, but they face a lot of criticism in our current political climate. Many people question how they keep doing an amazing job in face of [...]
I heard a distinction recently and I think the person was saying that work is something you do for others, and therefore maybe best not to make your hobby your work for money because it might lose the appeal if suddenly you have to do it in a way to satisfy others and not just [...]
When someone makes a suggestion for us to do something in a better way, and supposing we agree with their suggestion, we can either get it caught up in ego and feel poorly that we didn't think of it that way the first time around (my absolute default), or we can be thankful that they [...]
Occasionally I meet with people who seem to really want the results of the services I offer, but regardless of that feeling they face a barrier to being ready to pay for this services and results. I get it, because I am very cheap. This is definitely changing as I grow, but I think pretty [...]
Are you scared to actually have dreams because you do not see the path to them? Or because it might not happen and then you will fail? We have and create barriers for ourselves, but what if you let yourself dream just a little? What if you write it down and share only with yourself. [...]
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