I was driving in a new place...not my home environment, and dozens of people, probably locals, had driven likely over 30 minutes to see the sunset in a lovely setting. How amazing to see so many people taking in their surroundings in a random evening. I suspect we would all benefit from a little more [...]
Some people go in and out of friends as if it's no big deal. Is that you? Or do you hold onto them? It takes work. But what's better than a close friend?
A number of years ago I was first introduced to The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. Among other great insights, the most important concept in the book is that of an upper limit problem. This is the term he uses to describe the phenomenon whereby we all have a certain limit of love, success, abundance, [...]
Sometimes I get people cold emailing me and telling me that they looked at my website (one of my handful of sites) and they know why people don't engage with me...but they want to help me for free. Ha ha. But here's my question: how do these people know that my site isn't doing exactly [...]
It's not easy to ask for help. Even if we adequately compensate our advisors, it can feel vulnerable to ask. Are we worth it? Are we in the way? Are we naive for asking? Well yes, we are worth it, and that person probably really wants to help you!
It's always good to remind ourselves to be malleable in how we face the world. To allow our views to change over time. I was recently faced with recognizing my own bias. I had a conversation with someone who does not speak fluent English. I realized in my meeting with her that I was surprised [...]
I have mentioned before that I struggle, like so many of us, with a deeply-seated desire to feel busy. It's as though I act as though being busy is synonymous with being successful even though I don't actually think that is true. If busyness is a topic of interest to you, I recommend taking 15 [...]
I recently had the great fortune of spending the better part of 24 hours with someone who was dying. He was 100 and had a wonderful life, being with him in the end was an honor. While the very end was very peaceful and he did not appear distressed at all, there were times in [...]
I'm sitting in sunny California watching cyclists pass by on a busy road. A road frequented by cyclists, but with little shoulder and too-frequent crashes. But it's winter and the local residents get to ride outside. In shorts! It looks so much nicer than garage riding in the winter...but every climate has its trade-offs. What [...]
Do you have a personal mission statement? Do you have one for your family? If not, maybe February 2020 may be a good time to create them?
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