Complaining can be cathartic in the moment, but does it get you closer to change? Does it actually do any good? It might do just the opposite because you are focusing on the negative. If there is a problem with an action associated with it (that you do or commit to taking), that's simply important. [...]
How much of your 'must do's' do you dread? What percentage of your week would you calculate are items you don't want to do? And how much energy does that take? For example, you might hate doing 10% of the work, but is it taking over 90% of your thinking and energy? Are you comfortable [...]
What decisions what do you make differently if you believed in yourself 100%? Often times we try something and say if this works, I will do x next. I will only invest in myself if it works. But what if we decided that we will make it work no matter what. Whatever 'it' is might [...]
How do you respond to an abrupt change of plans? Whether something little like someone canceling their visit for dinner, something medium like the person you hired canceling last minute, or something huge like a medical diagnosis that will change your life for the foreseeable future, I think we are rooted in a response pattern. [...]
I have this deep rooted fear about not being welcome. It comes about in a variety of social contexts and I recently shared with someone that I'd signed up for something that I thought was a bit advanced for me at my stage of business. I was feeling self-conscious about participating "too early". At first [...]
We are social beings, so tremendously influenced by others. I wonder if the last year with more isolation has changed some of that for us? Have we developed ways of being that are more in tune with our natural state? Or perhaps we were influenced in different ways? There's a strong online influence, but is [...]
Thank goodness we are social creatures. I know intellectually that people have very different ideas and aspirations in life, and yet, I often struggle to internalize this. Other people can help me to see that others are different. It is then our job to keep this in our consciousness and remember to meet people where [...]
"Hi!! Do you like my new bike?" This was a neighbor kid up on a hill from me. He then pointed out the label of the bike. He is only a few years old and I doubt he could read it. Did he think that the label would help show me what it was? Or [...]
People are busy. Yet, sometimes we need to ask a favor. Sometimes without being able to offer something to fulfill the 'what's in it for me' bucket. Graciousness goes a long way and perhaps we can be nice enough to make the fact they are helping us be a good enough reward.
On one hand, I can't believe how excited I am to see people socially again (this will be published on the day that I reach two weeks since my second vaccine and I am fortunate enough to live in a community where anyone has been able to get vaccinated for awhile now). On the other [...]
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